I want you to know that while this may seem challenging in
the beginning, I know you can do this, even though TRUSTING Yourself may not
come “naturally”.
First, make the
decision to leave the old Habit of Adoption Trauma behind you. Most things you want to change start with
making a Decision. Take this as your
First “Baby Step”.
Now, I can already hear some of you saying, “But Kat… leaving
Adoption Trauma behind me isn’t that easy… it’s TRAUMA! You can’t just turn it off…”
I know this is how it feels... However...
What I am
asking you to do is to Make a DECISION that you are ready to create a New
Habit.
Decide to create the Habit of living in Your House of
Authentically Thriving…
Decide to Create a New Habit-HAT!
Once you make that Decision, the next step is to apply the
formula:
Focus + Energy = Reality. This
becomes your foundational behavior.
Your Focus and Energy are what you have control over.
Make the decision to use your Focus and
Energy to Move Out of your Current HAT. Keep practicing and applying your Focus and Energy to the best of your
ability every day.
At first, you will see small increments, and then bigger
growth over time. You will shift from
your Adoption Trauma into Authentically Thriving.
When you stay Focused and apply your Energy
to create the Reality you desire, these behaviors get easier and more automatic
as you practice them.
If needed, go back and review the Blogs on Coming Out of the
FOG and Emotional Mastery to further internalize and integrate the information
to help you along your Journey.
The Blueprint for the House of Authentically Thriving
There are 3 Steps in the Blueprint to Create a House of Authentically
Thriving!
It’s best to build them in order,
so you have a strong and stable structure to flourish in your life with Peace,
Love, and Alignment.
1. Reframe Your Mind (Foundation of the House)
Your mindset is the foundation upon which everything else is
built.
Choose to develop a growth mindset, where you see challenges as
opportunities to learn and grow, rather than argue for your limitations and
self-doubt.
Reframing is also learning to LET GO of beliefs, patterns
and habits which no longer serve you.
When you Reframe your
Adoption Trauma as “what happened inside you” based on the circumstances and
experiences handed to you… you can take control of what is inside you and shift
it.
You cannot control what happened
outside you. Only what is inside you.
Building a solid foundation will support all other aspects
of your development.
2. Transform Your Heart (Structure of the House)
The structure of your house represents your Emotional
Mastery and Well-being.
Transforming
your Heart involves letting go of the Adoption Pain so you can receive the Wisdom
this life experience can offer you.
This
Letting Go opens your heart to new experiences, people, and emotions, allowing
you to structure relationships which support and nurture you.
Transformation of the Heart is about cultivating self-love,
self-compassion, and a deep understanding of your emotional landscape.
Check out all the May Blogs on Emotional
Mastery and specifically understanding the Emotional Scale.
When you put your Focus and Energy on Self Love, you create
a Reality of Self Love, and the ability to love others in a healthy and
positive way, keeping yourself as your priority.
3. Liberate Your Soul (Living in the House of Authentically
Thriving)
Finally, Liberating your Soul means embracing your unique
identity and living authentically as a Spiritual Being having a Human
Experience.
You get to live from a
place of Peace, Love, and Alignment about who you choose to be and become, and
the life you choose to create for yourself and those you love.
Living in the new HAT provides you the freedom to be your
true self, and you create and choose who that true self is.
When you Liberate Your Soul, you live each day creating a
life that reflects your passions, values, and aspirations.
You are inspired in thoughts, feelings and actions
to live every day to the best of your ability; being the best version of
yourself in that moment.
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These 3 Steps of the Blueprint provide you with the framework
for Moving Beyond Adoption.
While these
steps can be undertaken on your own, for a more structured approach, keep
connecting with this Blog series, and movingbeyondadoption.com so you can be alerted
when our upcoming free events and programs open up!
Next Few Blogs: Specific Challenges and Strategies
In the next few blog posts, I will delve into 6 specific
challenges that adoptees face and provide strategies to reframe these traumas
into triumphs.
Each post will offer practical advice and exercises to help you
on your journey.
