When I walked away from my 25-year abusive marriage, I was determined to start myself again; to find the Truth about Kat.
Along the way, with a variety of teachers, spiritual guides, and coaches, I have been able to shift from needing to Fix myself and my Trauma (I’m not Broken and neither are YOU!) into becoming a Powerful Creator, capable of making clear and direct choices about how I want to live my life, physically, energetically, and emotionally.
It took a lot of trial and error, a lot of reading, listening, journaling, contemplation and shifting my long-held beliefs and perspectives about a LOT of things.
This is why I am sharing my journey with you, so hopefully you can gain insights, wisdom, and guidance which will make your journey smoother, easier, and take less time than mine has.
So, let's embark on this transformative odyssey of redefining and releasing Trauma, and where empowerment, autonomy, and self-discovery await you at every turn...
Taking
Back Your Power
For many Adoptees,
the journey begins with reclaiming your power – power over your emotions, your
narratives, and ultimately, your life.
Adoption trauma often leaves a profound
sense of powerlessness in its wake, as you struggle under the weight of
relinquishment, loss, abuse and many other unwanted or painful experiences. These have different levels of impact for
each Adoptee.
Learning Emotional
Mastery offers you a lifeline, empowering you to reclaim sovereignty over your
own narratives. It's about shifting from victimhood to agency, from uncertain chaos to grounded resilience. This seems to be a RADICAL concept in the Adoption
community.
Yes, we are victims
of a terrible system, however we do not need to LIVE as victims to create and advocate
for a better world for families and children, especially your own. You are
allowed and deserve to live with Peace, Love, Alignment, Agency, and Empowerment.
Through
introspection, self-reflection, guidance, support, and self-care practices, you
can dismantle the shackles of your past and step into the fullness of your
power and your future.
Making
Your Own Decisions
Central to
the journey of Emotional Mastery is the liberation to make your own decisions –
decisions rooted not in the FOG or trauma, but in Authenticity and Self-awareness.
For many Adoptees, this often means navigating the complexities of identity
formation amidst a backdrop of ambiguity and uncertainty.
Through the
art of Emotional Mastery, you can cultivate the clarity and confidence to chart
your own course. It's about honoring the wisdom of your intuition, trusting in your
inherent worthiness, and embracing the freedom to shape your own destiny.
As I stated
in another Blog, your Journey begins with a Decision to Move Beyond Adoption
and stop allowing your Past to determine Your Future. You are a powerful being. You came to live in this human experience
with purpose.
Decide you are ready to let
go of whatever has been, so you can become what you were born to Be, whether
you know your purpose yet or not.
Blending
Your Physical and Spiritual Selves
At the heart
of Emotional Mastery lies the integration of the physical and spiritual selves
– a harmonious union of body, mind, and soul. For Adoptees, this integration
can be particularly transformative, offering a pathway to reconcile the
fragmented pieces of your identity.
Most people “forget”
they are an Energetic or Spiritual self, but with Kept individuals they begin
their Spiritual Self journey “knowing” who they are in the Physical Realm. Adoptees have an added layer of “discovery” for
who you are both Physically and Spiritually.
Allow
yourself grace and honor the tangible realities of your lived experiences while
also embracing the eternal depths of your spiritual essence.
Through practices
like mindfulness, meditation, and embodiment exercises, you can cultivate a
sense of wholeness that transcends the confines of your past traumas. Working with a Spiritual or Transformational
Coach or Guide can also be very helpful to give you the structure needed to
create a strong and lasting practice.
When you choose to focus on connecting with and
growing your Spiritual Self, you experience solace and grounding which can
assist you on your journey of discovering your Physical Self and help prepare
you for the outcome of that journey.Perhaps the
most revolutionary aspect of Emotional Mastery is its rejection of the paradigm
of Fixing yourself in favor of the paradigm of Creating Yourself.
For Adoptees,
this shift in perspective is nothing short of radical, offering a powerful antidote
to the pervasive culture of pathology and deficiency. It's about
recognizing that Letting Go of Your Adoption Trauma is not about dissecting, analyzing,
labeling, erasing, or denying your past, but rather, rewriting, embracing and
integrating it as a vital part of your journey toward self-actualization.
Through Emotional
Mastery, you learn to Let Go of the Pain associated with your Trauma
or Memories and integrate the experiences as wisdom which guides you
forward.
You get to rewrite Your
Adoption script or narrative as you transform your Past to be guidance into
your Future.
You are Not Broken. Adoption Didn’t Break You. It handed you a set of experiences and circumstances
which cause you trauma.
YOU are NOT
your Trauma.
Gabor Maté states: “Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma
is what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.” (click for video)
Emotional
Mastery helps you release “what happens inside you” so you can live with and
from Peace, Love, and Alignment.
The pathway
of Emotional Mastery represents a revolutionary paradigm shift for Adoptees –
one that transcends the limitations of traditional therapeutic approaches and
empowers YOU to become the architect of your own destiny.
By reclaiming your
power, making your own decisions, blending your physical and spiritual selves,
and embracing the transformative power of creation, you can embark on a journey
of self-discovery and liberation that transcends the shackles of your past
traumas.
Click here to learn more about Moving Beyond Adoption
Check out my
next blog: Navigating the Emotional Landscape: Understanding the Emotional
Scale
