The Power of Words: Belonging

Aug 1 / Kat Linquist and Kat Salsano
The next few blogs we will be exploring various words used within the Adoptee Community. 

Sometimes we may share a different point of view about a word, or we might demonstrate how the energy of a word is either a high vibration or a low vibration and what impact that has on adopted people. 

We hope this next series resonates and helps you grow and expand as the energetic being you are, having this tangible and physical human experience.

-Kat and Kat

What I’m about to share might raise some eyebrows about Adoptees and Belonging...

Where Do I "Belong"?

It’s no secret that many adopted people experience a deep feeling of not belonging.

Many adoptees feel a lack of both internal and external trust that developed from being separated from our birth families. 

This separation creates an innate feeling of grief and loss that stays with adoptees through many years, if not a lifetime.

It is because of this sense of loss from a young age that many adoptees have difficulty navigating how to go about building their sense of belonging and connections.

As an Adopted Person, I know I have felt:

“I don’t belong to my Adoptive family, and I don’t belong to my Biological family, so where do I belong?”

"How can I belong anywhere if I can’t trust the people around me?"

This feeling of looking at your biological family as strangers while being surrounded by a family you are not related to, is isolating at times.

Feeling like I didn’t belong anywhere made me feel lonely at the time... wrapped in doubt about myself and the world around me.

Many adoptees believe the only way to belong is to find their biological family so they can “fill the void” of separation. 

This belief can manifest in two forms:
Consciously or Unconsciously.

So, Who AM I?

This question is one that all adoptees ask at one point in their journeys. Unfortunately, the answer to this question isn’t always something that ends in a “fairy tale ending.”

There are many adoptees who search for the answer and are met with a less than desired ending that can cause additional trauma and heartache. Each adoptee journey for this question is different.  And we must note, it is not always a positive experience, even if society tries to convince you so.

So how can an Adopted Person create belonging without knowing or being connected with their biological family?

My journey in finding belonging made me turn inwards to examine myself and bond to the person within me in a positive way. Now, I want to share what I have learned through my personal growth journey.

Personal growth is important on our journeys, and being open to understanding that we are more than just human.

When we as adopted people understand and accept that we are both energetic and physical beings who have a Divine Purpose in life, we are filled with a deeper sense of purpose and meaning.

This purpose then can awaken the energetic part of us, allowing us to embrace the universe, source energy, and our innate intuition.

It is after we as adopted people connect with our energetic part, that we realize we belong to someone...

We belong to ourselves!

All humans are taught from a young age to “look outside yourself” for love, acceptance, praise, purpose and meaning.  This is the “physical” way of interacting in the world and with other humans. 

As adopted people feel a bigger disconnection in this realm from the traumatic experiences of relinquishment and separation, we tend to want to address the "physical and emotional pain" through traditional therapeutic methodologies, such as therapy.

As we gain more life experience in our physical world, some of us begin to come out of the FOG and awaken into freedom (to the energetic part of ourselves). 

Yet many adopted people feel there is no one to teach or guide us along this journey of “looking inside yourself” for love, acceptance, praise, purpose and meaning from an adopted perspective.

As a practitioner of various energy methodologies, I have learned one very important “Hermetic Principle” which resonates deeply with me:

As Above, So Below.
or, another way to say it...
As Is Inside, So Is Outside.

Our world, our life experience, our “comfort zone” is determined by how we feel inside.

Yes, if we are not “belonging” to ourselves, we have a much harder time belonging with others.

Learning to “Belong to Yourself” as an Adopted Person is a different Journey than kept people.

Let Me Be Your Guide

As an Adopted Person and a Certified Transformational Coach, I have taken this journey and decided to offer support to a small group of people ready to take this journey too.  

The guidance I offer gives you a simple to follow structure and specific emotional and energetic transformation, so you can know the deep connection of belonging within yourself, and then be able to make deeper connections with others.

I’m starting up a group called From FOG to Freedom (F2F) which guides you to create a loving and supportive connection with yourself so you are free to live your life with the purpose and meaning you came here to share.  

Click this link to get more information.

Next week we’ll be exploring another “powerful word” to help you Move Beyond Adoption.
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