Now, imagine if you didn’t go to the hospital, but instead went
to a stranger’s house, who was not equipped to help you.
However, being kind-hearted and wanting to “save
you”, they let you stay until things started
to “get better”, at least on the outside.
They did what they could, but it wasn’t the right support or structure
for you to be in.
And because you didn’t get the bones set and supported, they
became infected and “reconnected” in a maladjusted way.
The infection affected other parts of the
body and spread, causing various ailments and degeneration within the body.
How can we apply this Analogy to Adoption Pain and Trauma?
This is what happens to Adoptees, as we were not given the
supportive and helpful structure to realign and create healthy pathways through
our trauma of separation.
Our separation from our first families is the “Break” we
experienced, which created a tremendous amount of pain.
Then we were placed into a structure
(adoptive family) which tried to give us the support we needed.
Unfortunately,
the underlying “break” was not addressed, and we grew up living in the FOG of
rejection or abandonment, identity loss, and unresolved pain without realizing
it.
Adult adoptees continue to live with that underlying break,
festering and infecting various parts of their lives – relationships,
self-love, employment, purpose, and meaning for even being alive, because the
structure they were given didn’t support them.
It failed them. Deeply.
If you are an adoptee who has been “coming out of the FOG”
and growing in your awareness of your Adoption Trauma and Pain, it’s like waking
up to that unhealed body, and facing the “reality” of the life you were
handed.
And now where do you go for
help?
Fortunately, life is about living in Structures. And now as adults we can change and choose
the structure we live in.
We no longer need to live in the Adoption Trauma Structure.
We can shift our perspective of Adoption
Trauma as a lifelong problem to be solved into a set of circumstances we can
move through and beyond, to come out better on the other side.
The New Way to Heal
The New Way to “HEAL” is by moving into the Creative Structure,
where we get to live a Life we Love, rather than spend the rest of our life
fixing or solving the problem of our Adoption Pain.
I travelled through a 10-year journey to figure out how to reframe
my Adoption Trauma and create the ART of Becoming a Powerful Creator. And now I am so proud to share this journey with
YOU in a way that won’t take you 10 years of struggle and groping blinding in the
dark, hoping to find your way. (which was how I did it!)
Moving into the Creative Structure takes a certain amount of
courage, trust, and a willingness to view the world and your life from a new
perspective. It means letting go of the pain, and focusing on what you desire and deserve in your life, and manifesting the Joy that is your Birthright.
The Creative Structure helps you to live in the Present moment, to love yourself, know your limitless possibilities, and connect with the Universe and your Higher Self.
If you are ready to Move Beyond Adoption (MBA), and want to
learn more about the Creative Structure so YOU can step into becoming the Powerful
Creative YOU, keep reading and join our MBA community to receive more support
and guidance FROM Adoptees, FOR Adoptees.
Adoption didn’t Break You, and it’s not a Life Sentence of
Pain and Trauma.
You CAN move Through
and Beyond Adoption to live your Best Life.
I’m here to support and guide you along this journey.
