Recognizing Your Emotions
are Not YOU
One of the
fundamental keys to mastering your emotions is understanding that they do not
define you.
Emotions are transient states of being that arise in response to
various stimuli, but they are not the essence of who you are. It is important
to recognize that you are separate from your emotions; and therefore, you can
observe them with greater clarity and objectivity.
This
awareness empowers you to respond to your emotions from a place of strength and
resilience, rather than being consumed by them.
Many times you define yourself by your emotions.
You say “I am angry” rather than “I Feel
Angry”.
There is an energetic difference
between these two statements. The second
is more correct, in that you are FEELING an emotion, and not BEING the emotion.
Separating
yourself from your emotions takes practice and mindfulness and is an important
distinction in the process of Emotional Mastery.
Emotional
Responses to Past Traumas are Not
Rooted in the Present
Your
emotions are often deeply intertwined with your past experiences, memories, and
traumas. However, it's essential to remember that these past events are NOT
occurring in the present moment. Memories and emotions are deeply linked, and separating your emotions from your memories is what needs to happen in order to break the cycle of trauma-based emotions and decision-making.
As I quoted
Gabor Maté before: “Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is
what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.”
What many
Adoptees continue to experience is the emotional responses, safety mechanisms
and self-preservation of a young child trying to make sense of the painful
experiences, familial separations, and a set of expectations or obligations
placed upon your younger self.
Gaining
Emotional Mastery helps you learn to see your Adult Self as living in the
Present, and your Wounded Inner Child living in the Past. You can recognize that your current patterns,
beliefs, and habits of emotional reactions come from that Wounded Inner Child,
and choose to create different emotional responses based on your Adult Self and
agency.
When you do
find yourself overwhelmed by intense emotions, it can be helpful to remind yourself
that you are reacting to your memories, not responding to your current reality.
By anchoring yourself
in the present moment, you can break free from the grip of past emotions and
cultivate a greater sense of inner peace and equilibrium.
Emotions Are
Your Vibrational Compass
Your
emotions serve as valuable indicators of your vibrational level or energetic
frequency. They are your compass to guide and direct your responses based on
the frequency or vibration of the experience and where you are currently living
on the Emotional Scale.
When you
experience emotions such as joy, love, and appreciation, you are operating at a
higher vibrational frequency, aligning yourself with abundance and positivity.
Conversely,
feelings of fear, anger, and resentment are indicative of a lower vibrational
state, characterized by resistance and negativity. By paying attention to your
emotional landscape, you can gain insights into your vibrational level and make
conscious choices to elevate your energy and attract more positive experiences
into your lives.
Many times I
have found myself if a “predicament” which seemed negative or frustrating, and
by raising my emotional vibration I have been able to “turn the tide” or
manifest what I needed in ways I could not have imagined had I been focused on
the lower emotional levels.
Even my most recent experience of breast cancer, and having a double Mastectomy, I can view with positivity and accept that this was the path of least resistance for me in the greater story of my unfolding life. I may not be able to see where it leads yet, however I trust that the Universe is guiding me towards my desires, goals, and the fulfilling life I am creating.
I’m sure you
have also been able to create and manifest things in your life that seemed
negative but turned positive when you focused on creating solutions and took
the steps in that direction with a positive attitude and positive expectations that everything always works out!
Choose to
Master Your Emotions – Remember the Power
of Intentional Decisions
Ultimately,
mastering your emotions is a choice that requires commitment, practice, and
self-awareness.
Instead of allowing your emotions to dictate your thoughts and
actions, you have the power to consciously respond to them with wisdom and
discernment.
Every decision you make, no matter how small, shapes our emotional
landscape and contributes to your overall well-being. By choosing to master your
emotions, you reclaim your agency and unlock the potential for profound personal
growth and transformation.
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Creating a
new power dynamic with your emotions is a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and self-empowerment. YES, it's all about YOU!
By recognizing that emotions are not synonymous with your
identity, understanding their connection to past experiences, leveraging them
as indicators of your vibrational level, and consciously choosing to master
them, you can cultivate greater emotional resilience, balance, and fulfillment
in your life.
Embrace the power within you to navigate your emotions with grace
and intention and watch as your life transforms in remarkable ways.
Reach for my
next Blog:
Planning Your Emotional Mastery Journey
