Create a New Power Dynamic with Your Emotions

May 14 / Kat Linquist

Emotions, those powerful and often unpredictable forces that shape your experiences, can either be your greatest allies or your fiercest adversaries.

How you engage with your emotions can profoundly impact your life, relationships, and overall well-being.

Moving Beyond Adoption requires you to take new pathways and shift your beliefs and perspectives around your emotions and your spiritual & energetic structure.

Let’s delve into the concept of creating a new power dynamic with your emotions, exploring how you can navigate them with mindfulness and intentionality.

Recognizing Your Emotions
are Not YOU

One of the fundamental keys to mastering your emotions is understanding that they do not define you.

Emotions are transient states of being that arise in response to various stimuli, but they are not the essence of who you are. It is important to recognize that you are separate from your emotions; and therefore, you can observe them with greater clarity and objectivity.

This awareness empowers you to respond to your emotions from a place of strength and resilience, rather than being consumed by them.  Many times you define yourself by your emotions. 

You say “I am angry” rather than “I Feel Angry”. 

There is an energetic difference between these two statements.  The second is more correct, in that you are FEELING an emotion, and not BEING the emotion.

Separating yourself from your emotions takes practice and mindfulness and is an important distinction in the process of Emotional Mastery.

Emotional Responses to Past Traumas are Not
Rooted in the Present

Your emotions are often deeply intertwined with your past experiences, memories, and traumas. However, it's essential to remember that these past events are NOT occurring in the present moment.  Memories and emotions are deeply linked, and separating your emotions from your memories is what needs to happen in order to break the cycle of trauma-based emotions and decision-making.

As I quoted Gabor Maté before: “Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.”

What many Adoptees continue to experience is the emotional responses, safety mechanisms and self-preservation of a young child trying to make sense of the painful experiences, familial separations, and a set of expectations or obligations placed upon your younger self.

Gaining Emotional Mastery helps you learn to see your Adult Self as living in the Present, and your Wounded Inner Child living in the Past.  You can recognize that your current patterns, beliefs, and habits of emotional reactions come from that Wounded Inner Child, and choose to create different emotional responses based on your Adult Self and agency.

When you do find yourself overwhelmed by intense emotions, it can be helpful to remind yourself that you are reacting to your memories, not responding to your current reality.

By anchoring yourself in the present moment, you can break free from the grip of past emotions and cultivate a greater sense of inner peace and equilibrium.

Emotions Are Your Vibrational Compass

Your emotions serve as valuable indicators of your vibrational level or energetic frequency.  They are your compass to guide and direct your responses based on the frequency or vibration of the experience and where you are currently living on the Emotional Scale.

When you experience emotions such as joy, love, and appreciation, you are operating at a higher vibrational frequency, aligning yourself with abundance and positivity.

Conversely, feelings of fear, anger, and resentment are indicative of a lower vibrational state, characterized by resistance and negativity. By paying attention to your emotional landscape, you can gain insights into your vibrational level and make conscious choices to elevate your energy and attract more positive experiences into your lives.

Many times I have found myself if a “predicament” which seemed negative or frustrating, and by raising my emotional vibration I have been able to “turn the tide” or manifest what I needed in ways I could not have imagined had I been focused on the lower emotional levels.

Even my most recent experience of breast cancer, and having a double Mastectomy, I can view with positivity and accept that this was the path of least resistance for me in the greater story of my unfolding life.  I may not be able to see where it leads yet, however I trust that the Universe is guiding me towards my desires, goals, and the fulfilling life I am creating.

I’m sure you have also been able to create and manifest things in your life that seemed negative but turned positive when you focused on creating solutions and took the steps in that direction with a positive attitude and positive expectations that everything always works out!

Choose to Master Your Emotions – Remember the Power
of Intentional Decisions

Ultimately, mastering your emotions is a choice that requires commitment, practice, and self-awareness.

Instead of allowing your emotions to dictate your thoughts and actions, you have the power to consciously respond to them with wisdom and discernment.

Every decision you make, no matter how small, shapes our emotional landscape and contributes to your overall well-being. By choosing to master your emotions, you reclaim your agency and unlock the potential for profound personal growth and transformation.


Creating a new power dynamic with your emotions is a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and self-empowerment.  YES, it's all about YOU!

By recognizing that emotions are not synonymous with your identity, understanding their connection to past experiences, leveraging them as indicators of your vibrational level, and consciously choosing to master them, you can cultivate greater emotional resilience, balance, and fulfillment in your life.

Embrace the power within you to navigate your emotions with grace and intention and watch as your life transforms in remarkable ways.

Reach for my next Blog:

Planning Your Emotional Mastery Journey

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