How does the Law of Attraction intersect with the Adoption Experience?

Jun 1 / Diana Pifer
As Adoptees, we have had a specific set of “circumstances and events” which caused us deep pain early in our life experience.  We call this Adoption Trauma. 

This Trauma was powerful in its impact, and as young children we did not yet have the ability to choose our responses.  So, our Unconscious parts embodied beliefs and feelings of being unworthy, unlovable, not enough or too much. 

These beliefs and feelings became the basis of our lives… which is why so many adult adoptees still struggle with abandonment, rejection, people pleasing, the “grateful” syndrome, feeling alone and isolated, and not able to embrace our Authentic Self.
These same beliefs and feelings created in our pre-verbal early childhood still “run the show” behind the adult self we present to the world.

And because of this we continue to “attract” people, circumstances and events which match the core feelings we carry.

My early life was filled with judgment, comparison, and reminders that I didn’t “live up to my adopted parents expectations”. 

I then took those feelings of being unloved, unworthy, and "less than" into my toxic and abusive marriage, where I continue to live out these beliefs and feelings. 

At first, I resigned that this was “just life” and tried to get through each day.  But after many years of living this way, the pain just became too great.

I KNEW that life was bad, and yet I didn’t know about the Laws of the Universe, or Energy. 

I just knew I couldn’t stay in the pain any longer.

I finally made the decision to leave my marriage and the “leaving” was also incredibly painful and difficult, even creating a situation where I “abandoned” my daughter to save myself… talk about “full circle” emotions and circumstances!

Being the Abandoned daughter and then doing the same thing to my own child. 

This is the Law of Attraction at work. I didn’t know the Law of Attraction back then. 

Yet, I can see the patterns clearly now.

Next blog I’ll talk about how I use LOA to benefit my life now.
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