Here are 6 ways “Coming Out of the F.O.G.” Benefits You.
Clarity
and Self-Understanding:
Coming out of the FOG allows adoptees to gain clarity about your identity
and how your life experiences have been shaped by your adoption narratives and experiences.
You can better understand complex and sometimes repressed feelings you may have
been carrying due to your adoption, such as abandonment, rejection, lack of
trust, or confusion, and how these influence and impact your thoughts, feelings
and actions.
Opening up
to see yourself from a new perspective is best experienced when you include
introspection, meditation, journaling or creating private recordings about what
you are thinking, feeling and experiencing.
This allows you to look back on your journey and see the progress you make.
Through this
exploration, adoptees can gain insights into how your adoption has shaped your
identity, relationships, and worldview. By understanding yourself more fully,
adoptees can navigate life with greater confidence and authenticity.
Self-Love,
Compassion and Acceptance:
Coming out of the FOG often involves a deep exploration of one's own
emotions, experiences, and identity. This journey towards self-awareness can
foster a profound sense of self-love and acceptance for adoptees.
By
acknowledging and validating your own feelings and experiences, you learn to
embrace all aspects of yourself, including your adoption story. This
self-acceptance is the foundation of self-love, allowing adoptees to recognize your
inherent worth and value as a spiritual being having a human experience.
Many Adoptees
carry deep feelings of shame, guilt, or inadequacy as a result of their
adoption experiences or the societal stigma surrounding adoption. Coming out of
the FOG involves practicing self-compassion and forgiveness towards oneself.
Having a
guide or framework helps you learn to love yourself, and treat yourself with
kindness and understanding. It is
important to recognize you are deserving of love and compassion, regardless of your
past or circumstances. Through this practice of self-compassion and
forgiveness, adoptees can release the burden of self-blame and cultivate a
deeper sense of inner peace and wholeness.
Empowerment:
Breaking free from the FOG empowers
adoptees to acknowledge and validate your own experiences, emotions, and needs.
It enables you to assert your own identity and make choices that align with your
true selves, rather than feeling obligated to fulfill the expectations or
wishes of others.
Adoptees can
learn to take control of your own narrative and advocate for your needs.
Instead of feeling trapped by feelings of obligation or guilt, you can assert your
autonomy and make choices that align with your values and desires.
This sense
of empowerment leads to greater self-confidence and resilience, as adoptees
learn to trust your intuition and prioritize your own well-being.
Healthy
Relationships:
When
adoptees are no longer controlled by Fear, Obligation, or Guilt in your
relationships, you can establish healthier boundaries and communicate more
effectively.
This can lead to more authentic connections with family members,
friends, and romantic partners, based on mutual respect and understanding.
Adoptees who
have come out of the FOG are better equipped to establish and maintain healthy
relationships with others.
By setting clear boundaries and communicating openly
about your needs and emotions, you can foster relationships built on trust,
respect, and mutual understanding, and allow them to grow and unfold in a more
natural organic way.
This can
lead to deeper connections with family members, friends, and romantic partners,
as you feel secure in expressing your authentic self.
Transformation
and Growth:
Coming
out of the FOG is a crucial step in transforming your Adoption Narrative from one
handed to you, to one you Create for yourself.
It allows you
to confront and address unresolved issues related to your adoption, which can
lead to emotional mastery and personal growth.
By processing your emotions and
experiences in a healthy way, adoptees can Move Beyond Adoption with greater
resilience and confidence.
Coming out
of the FOG is a transformative journey of personal growth for adoptees. By releasing
emotions related to adoption which keep you stuck in the trauma and pain,
adoptees can begin to grow from within, connecting with their Higher Self,
Source Energy, or Intuition.
As adoptees
learn to embrace your past and integrate it into your sense of self, you can
experience profound emotional healing and emerge stronger and more resilient
than before.
Advocacy
and Awareness:
Adoptees who have come out of the FOG may become advocates for yourself and
others within the adoption community. You can raise awareness about the
emotional complexities of adoption, advocate for adoptee rights, and work
towards creating more supportive environments for adoptees to thrive.
You may feel
compelled to advocate and speak out about issues such as access to birth
records, the need for post-adoption support services, or the importance of
adoptee rights.
By sharing your own experiences and raising awareness about the
complexities of adoption, your advocacy can help create more inclusive and
supportive environments for adoptees to thrive.
Your advocacy efforts can also
contribute to broader social change and a greater understanding of adoption's
impact on individuals and families.
Overall,
coming out of the FOG can be a transformative and empowering journey for
adoptees, enabling them to live more authentic, fulfilling lives and contribute
positively to their own well-being and the adoption community as a whole.
Look for my
next blog: HELP! Coming out of the FOG is Overwhelming!